如果你想要尋找成功的秘密，它們並不難找。在外面有上千的書，課程，電子節目，文章，面談，影視，與各種教你如何成功的課程。然而，雖然外面有無數幾乎是免費的資源供你使用，我們許多人依舊活得平平凡凡而永遠不會嚐到成功的滋味。

If you’re searching for the secrets to success, they aren’t hard to find. There are thousands of books, seminars, podcasts, articles, interviews, videos, and courses all dedicated to teaching you how to succeed. And yet even with all of this incredible information available at little to no cost, so many of us continue to live in mediocrity and will never taste success.

事實是，你可以擁有所有正確的知識，但如果你仍持有著錯誤的信念與行為，那麼你遇見失敗的機率會遠大於你遇見成功。失敗不永遠是件壞事，只要你可以從錯誤中學到什麼並更改你的行為來達到成功。幸運的是，這只是一些徵兆來警告你，你很可能正踩在失敗的道路之上。藉由注意到這些徵兆，以及做一些適當的改變，你得到成功的機率也將會明顯的增加。

The reality is that you can have all the right knowledge, but if you hold on to the wrong beliefs or behaviors, you are more likely to meet with failure than you are with success. Failure is not always a bad thing, as long as you are learning from the mistakes and are correcting your behaviors and actions to reach success. Fortunately there are signs that serve as warnings that you may be on the path to constant failure. By acknowledging these signs, and making changes when necessary, you increase your odds of success dramatically.

以下是十個你可能對失敗上癮的徵兆

Listed below are 10 signs that you’re addicted to constant failure:

1. You’re addicted to the approval of others （你總是等待著別人的認同）

當你到了要做重要決定的時刻，與其相信自己的邏輯與直覺，你選擇第一時間詢問身旁的人的意見。你重視別人的意見遠勝過你自己的。這種情緒上期望得到他人認同的癮會讓你缺乏自信，並使你想要去取悅他人。

When it’s time to make an important decision, instead of trusting your logic and intuition, you consult with the people around you first.  You value the opinions of others more than you value your own. This emotional addiction to the approval of others stems from your lack of self-confidence, and your desire to please everyone.

成功的人對於他們尋問意見的人非常的苛求。他們確定自己只考慮那些有成功記錄並手頭也有問題的人的意見。他們不會把自己與任何人相提並論，特別是那些對於問題本身根本就沒有任何經驗的人。因為到最後，他們只會做他們覺得對的事﹣而不是別人說服他們去做的事。

Successful people are very particular about whose advice they ask for. They make sure to only consider the opinion of someone who has a track record of success with the issue at hand. They don’t concern themselves with the opinions of anyone and everyone, especially when it comes to issues that those people have little or no experience with. At the end of the day, they do what they feel is right – not what other people convince them to do.

2. You entertain yourself instead of educating yourself（你選擇娛樂自己，而不是教育自己）

你有個全職的工作，也可能有個不錯的職業，但你從畢業之後就從來沒有翻過一本書，而你唯一受過的訓練是因為你的雇主要求的。想要去參加與你的工作領域相同的活動，讀書，吸收新的資訊，抑或是去參加任何一場座談會來得到新的技能，以及獲得一個新的觀點對你來說十分的陌生。

You work a full time job and you might even have a decent career, but you haven’t opened a book since college, and the only extra training you’ve taken was required by your employer. The thought of going to networking events in your industry, reading books, listening to podcasts, or going to seminars to learn new skills and get new ideas is completely foreign to you.

與其將你多餘的時間投資在自己身上，並讓自己在市場上增值，你選擇用來娛樂自己並浪費你的生命與效率。你常看電視，你總是知道誰贏了哪場比賽，並且常常可以在夜店裡找到你。

Instead of spending your spare time investing in yourself and your ability to provide more value to the marketplace, you distract yourself with entertainment that adds no real value to your life or your productivity. You watch television often, you always know who won the game, and you can be found in nightclubs regularly.

3. You blame others for your circumstances（你總是將自己的處境歸罪在別人身上）

你對你現在的生活一點都不滿意，但是你卻有個完美的解釋。一開始的時候，這完全都不是你的錯。你怪錯到你的老闆，同事，家人，老師，童年，更甚至是現在的經濟造成你無法成功。

You’re not satisfied with where you are in life, but you have a perfect explanation for it. Essentially, none of it is your fault. You blame your boss, your coworkers, your parents, your educators, your childhood, even the economy for your lack of success.

你拒絕對你所製造出來的結果負擔起100%的責任。你拒絕承認你才是掌控自己的生命的那個人，你有絕對的主導權選擇任何一個你想要的方向。

You refuse to take 100% responsibility for your results. You refuse to acknowledge that YOU are in control of your life, and you get to steer yourself in whatever direction you choose.

4. You’re afraid of making mistakes（你害怕犯錯）

你害怕犯錯，所以你總是盡可能地避免犯下任何的錯誤。你忘了在現實生活裡，失敗並不是好事或是壞事，而是個單純的效應。但與其從這些珍貴的效應中得到學習，你選擇完全地避免它的發生。當你犯了錯，你選擇覆蓋這樣的事實所以沒有人會注意到。你同時不想要做任何的決定因為你害怕做下錯誤的決定。你要做個決定總是要花上很久的時間，而且你經常改變你的心意。

You’re afraid of failure, so you do whatever you can do avoid making mistakes. You forget that in the real world failure is not good or bad, it is simply feedback. But instead of learning from the valuable feedback that failure provides, you try to avoid it entirely. When you make a mistake, you cover it up and hope no one notices. You also put off making decisions because you’re afraid of making the wrong one. It takes you a long time to finally make a decision, and you change your mind often.

5. You stay in relationships that obviously aren’t working（你選擇待在一個明顯不會有任何結果的關係裡）

你有與那些為你製造更多問題勝過於為你帶來愉悅的人約會的傾向。你經常會容忍那些你明知道是無法接受的行為，也因為你的容忍，所以這樣的行為不斷地繼續。或許你將你上一段感情的問題帶到這段感情裡面來。或許你掙扎著內心的自卑所以你對他人的標準並不是很高。不管原因是什麼，你必須了解到你對伴侶的選擇會對你的生活與成功帶來很大的影響。如果你現在在一起的人無法跟你一起分享快樂與成功的話，那麼便儘快與他們斷絕關係並提高你自己的標準。

You have a tendency to date people who bring you more problems than pleasure. You often tolerate behaviors that you know are unacceptable, and because you tolerate them they continue. Maybe you carry unresolved issues from previous relationships into your current one. Maybe you struggle with a low self-image so the standard you have for others isn’t very high. Whatever the case is, you must understand that your choice of spouse has a major impact on your life and success. If the person you’re with now is inhibiting your happiness and success, cut them lose and raise your standards.

6. You’re addicted to drama（你總是很戲劇化）

你的生活就像是電視連戲劇一樣，你很少與你身旁的人和平相處。你喜歡聊別人的八掛，同樣的，他們也會聊你的八卦。你花時間在一起的人們總是喜歡與別人爭吵，與他人的伴侶調情，說謊，而且似乎很常與他人產生問題。與其將自己與這樣的人脫離開來，你持續地加入他們並吹風點火。你甚至很可能是那個起火點。

Your life is a lot like an episode from a reality TV show. You are rarely on good terms with all of the people around you. You gossip about others often, and surprise surprise, they gossip about you too. The people you spend time with are known for arguing with each other, flirting with each other’s spouses, lying, and generally just causing problems between each other regularly. Instead of disassociating yourself from these types of people, you jump right in and add fuel to the fire. Heck, maybe you’re even the star of the show.

7. You spend time with people who are going nowhere（你選擇將時間花在那些明顯不會有任何長進的人身上）

Jim Rohn,美國使上最成功的生意哲學家，曾經說過：你會變成你最常花時間相處的五個人的平均質。不幸的是，你將大部份的時間花在那些不支持／鼓勵你的成功的人身上。你身旁的人沒有野心，沒大目標，沒有實質的計劃去改善他們的生活。他們似乎認為成力只是一種會發生在其它人身上，而不是他們身上的事。你有些時候與這些人分享你的野心，而他們總是在第一時間壓碎它。

Jim Rohn, who was considered to be America’s Foremost Business Philosopher, once said thatyou become the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Unfortunately you spend most of your time with people who do not support or encourage your success. The people around you have no ambitions, no goals, and no concrete plans to improve their life. They seem to think that success is something that happens to other people, but not to them. You sometimes share an ambitious idea with these people, but they are quick to crush it.

成功的人知道身旁的人的態度是有傳染性的，所以他們刻意地讓自己環繞在那些可以幸勵他們，推使他們朝更高的層次進步的人身旁。他們知道如果自己真的想要成功的話，那他們絕對不能讓自己去適應那些平凡人的態度，思維與習慣。

Successful people know that the attitudes of the people around them are contagious, so they intentionally surround themselves with people who will encourage them and push them to higher levels. They know that they can’t afford to adopt the beliefs, thoughts, and habits of mediocre people if they are going to continue succeeding.

8. You’re careless with money（你對金錢的草率態度）

你常常在月底還沒到之前就已經把錢給花光了。你日復一日地過著同樣的生活並對你的未來沒有做任何的投資。你總是在信用卡上留下結算總額，即便你無法支付也選擇去渡假，而且你還常常衝動地買很貴的東西。你花錢試圖讓自已看起來很成功，但是你的收支平衡表卻老是出現赤字。你幾乎沒有任何的存款，你鐵定也沒有任何的退休計劃。你沒有任何可以為你賺錢的資產，而你的消費習慣則是你最大的負擔。

You often run out of money before you run out of month. You’re living paycheck to paycheck and you invest nothing for the future. You carry a balance on your credit cards, you take vacations you can’t afford, and you often buy expensive things impulsively. You spend money trying to look successful, but your balance sheet tells a different story. You hardly have any savings. You certainly don’t have a retirement plan. You don’t have any assets that make money for you, and your spending habits are your biggest liability.

你有些時候會意識到你的處境的真相，但與其選擇去面對它或是改變它，你總是選擇繼續這樣的情況。每次只要一想到你的財務狀況就讓你頭痛，但你寧願選擇完全地去避免這樣的話題。

You sometimes come close to acknowledging the truth about your situation, but instead of facing it and changing it, you let it continue. Thinking about your finances gives you a headache, and you prefer to avoid the subject entirely.

9. You have dreams (great) but no set goals (not so great) （你有夢想（很好），但沒有設定任何的目標（不是那麼好））

你常常夢想著一個你想要的生活，但與其努力工作去讓那樣的事情變成現實，你選擇待在現在的處境裡不做任何的舉動。你常常抱怨，但很少改變。你說你想要一些特定的事，但是你卻沒有做任何的事去得到他們。你希望你的生活可以變得更好，但是你卻沒有辦法致力改善你自己以及你的現況。

You often imagine a more desirable version of your life, but instead of working towards making that vision a reality, you settle for your present circumstances. You complain often, but change little. You say you want certain things, but you do nothing to obtain them. You wish for your life to get better, but you make no commitment to improve yourself or your circumstances.

成功的人通常都有明確，特定的目標在趨使。他們的目標是指引他們做決定以及每天活動的指標，他們顯少虛度一天而沒做一些可以幫助他們更加接近／實現他們目標的事。他們的夢想不是他們每天晚上睡覺而來的夢，他們的夢想是他們每天早上醒來所要追逐的事。

Successful people are driven by clear, specific goals. Their goals are what guide their decisions and their daily activities, and they rarely let a day pass by without doing something to bring them closer to achieving them. Their dreams aren’t something they sleep with at night; their dreams are something they wake up and chase.

10. You think successful people got lucky （你認為成功的人只是幸運而已）

最後一個你對失敗上癮的徵兆是你相信別人的成功都單純地因為他們的幸運﹣也就是他們比別人多了些你沒有的優先條件。你相信他們的父母幫他們，或者是他們去了對的學校，或是在對的環境下長大，或是在對的時間進到對的市場，或是認識了對的人等等。

The final sign that you’re addicted to failure is you believe that people who are successful got lucky – that they had some sort of advantage that you don’t have. You believe their parents helped them, or they went to the right school, or grew up in the right neighbourhood, or got in at the right time, or knew the right person, etc.

你認為成功是人們不小心遇到的﹣就像天時地利人合一樣的意思。但事實是，人們之所以成功是因為他們讓自已在對的時間與地點成為『對的人』。也就是說，他們不斷地工作，準備自己來迎接那個特定的機會，而當那個機會出現的時候，他們懂得捉住它們。他們不會成天坐在那裡等著機會會自動降臨到他們的身上。他們也大多不會去買彩卷期望自己會因此而致富。

You think success is something that people stumble upon – a “right place at the right time” sort of situation. But the reality is people succeed by being the right person in the right place at the right time. In other words, they work relentlessly to prepare themselves for specific opportunities, and when those opportunities present themselves, they seize them. They don’t sit around waiting for the life they want to fall into their lap. They also typically don’t buy lottery tickets.