【轉載】五個女人覺得男人不可抗拒的特質

你被某一種特定的人吸引一定有個原因， 而其中一個原因在於這個人很男性化或是女性化。

There’s a reason you’re attracted to certain people. One of those reasons is whether or not that person is masculine or feminine.

我們比較可能被與我們本身性別相反的特質所吸引。這不是男女之間的事情（你可以是個較為女性化的男人，也可能是個較男性化的女人）這裡所指的是能量。

We’re most strongly sexually attracted to people who have the opposite sexual essence of our own. This is not a male-female thing (you can be a man who identifies as more feminine, and vice versa); it’s more about energy.

這個意思就是說那種你可以強烈區分的男性特質正是絕大部份的女性覺得吸引人的地方。

What this means is that the traits that make you distinctly masculine are the traits that attracts the feminine the most.

我的意思不是說，身為一個男人，你必須擁有這所有的特質才能夠吸引一個女性。我也不是說每一個女人都會被我底下所提到的特質所吸引。但我的意思是說，大部份的女人都會。

By no means am I saying that as a man, you must have these qualities to appear attractive to a female. Nor am I saying that every woman is going to want a man with the qualities that I describe below. But I’m saying that a lot of women do.

以下是五種女人會覺得男人無法抗拒的特質：

Here are five distinctly masculine traits that the feminine finds irresistible:

1. Presence （存在感）

一個有存在感的男人真的會讓女人覺得十分的有魅力。

There is something about a man who is present that is just flat-out irresistible to a woman. There’s no getting around it; it’s just true.

我所謂的存在感是你有那個能力可以與此時此刻做意識的連結。

What I mean when I say presence is your ability to be consciously connected to the here and now.

當你聆聽一個女人的時候，她們可以感覺得到你的存在感。當你專注在一件對你來說很重要的事情的時候，她也可以感受到你的存在感。當你與你的軸心做連結的時候，她也可以感覺到你的存在感。

A woman can feel your presence when you listen to her. She can feel your presence when you are deeply engaged in a task that ‘s important to you. She can feel your presence when you’re connected to your core.

存在感是一種練習。是一種你可以熟能生巧的技能。文化上，我們像是得到不活在現在的傳染病一樣。我們一天總是可以找到許多的方法來分散我們的注意力。但如果你想要學習變得更加地活在當下，你絕對可以的。最簡單的方法就是從靜坐冥想開始做起。透過冥想可以讓你與此時此刻更加地連結。

Presence is a practice. It’s something you can get better at. Culturally, we’re in an epidemic of not being present; we find many ways to distract ourselves all day long. But if you want to learn to be more present, you can! The easiest way to do so is to start a meditation practice. Meditation will train you to connect to the here and now.

2. Purpose (目地）

一個生活有目地的男人是炙手可熱的。

A man with a purpose in life is hot.

你的目地可能是很多的事情。那可以是改變這個世界，也可以是將你的身體推向極限，那可以是創立一個事業或是造一間房子，那可以是去創造藝術，也可以是成為你所知道最仁慈的人。。。

Your purpose can be any number of things. It can be to change the world. It can be to push your body to its limits. It can be to build a business or build homes. It can be to be to make art, or to be the kindest person you know.

不管你的目地是什麼（雖然，老實說，愈是造福人群的愈好﹣但那只是我個人的觀感。）真正重要的是你的生命有所目地，而你正在發掘它的軌道之上。

It’s not about what your purpose is (although, honestly, the more it benefits humanity, the better — but that’s just my opinion). What matters is that you have a purpose or that you’re in the process of discovering it.

如果你與你的目地還沒有感覺到任何的連結，最好的方法就是問自己你最感到熱衷的是什麼。你的目地通常都是與這個世界分享你的熱情。

If you don’t feel connected to your purpose yet, the best way to find it is to ask yourself what you’re most passionate about. Your purpose is usually about sharing your passion with the world.

3. Direction（方向）

在目地之後便是方向。目地是知道你來這個世上是要做些什麼，而方向則是去執行那樣的事。

With purpose comes direction. Purpose is knowing what you are here to do and direction is doingit.

女性大多是靠著感覺與存在做為基礎的。是的，我們也會做事。（大部份的我們其實做很多的事！）但我們對於可以把事情做完的男人感到非常的有吸引力。因為他有個計劃，而且他採取行動（即使是小的行動）去完成它。這便是一個男人的方向。

The feminine essence is more an essence of feeling and being. Yes, we do things (most of us do a lot!). But we’re very attracted to men who get things done. He has a plan, and he’s taking steps (even small ones) to accomplish it. This is a man’s direction.

你清楚的方向讓女性覺得有安全感。如果她知道你可以自己導航，那麼她就在你的面前有更多的空間可以休息。她不用告訴妳該怎麼做，因為你已經知道了。（我們喜歡那樣）

Your clear direction makes the feminine feel safe. If she knows that you can navigate well on your own, then she has more room to relax in your presence. She doesn’t have to show you how to do it, because you already know how. (We like that.)

4. Honesty and trust（誠實與信任）

顯然的，信任與誠實是所有關係裡面重要的特質。信任來自於誠實的行動，但其定義卻遠過於此。 當我說信任的時候，我的意思是，一個女人可以信任你是對自己誠實的嗎？

Obviously, trust and honesty are important qualities in all relationships. Trust comes from acting in honest ways, but the definition goes beyond that. What I mean when I say trust is, can a woman trust that you’re being honest with yourself?

一個最顯著的女性特質是直覺﹣我們的直覺讓我們在十萬八千里外就可以感覺得到你的癈話與謊言。

One of the distinct feminine qualities is intuition — and with our intuition comes the ability to sense your BS from a mile away.

當你學著對你自已誠實的時候（包括你的掙扎，挫折，挑戰，力量以及所有的一切），那麼一個女人便可以感受到你的正直，而她也會開始信任你。

When you learn to be deeply honest with yourself (about your struggles, shortcomings, challenges, strengths, all of it), then a woman will feel your integrity. And she’ll trust you, too.

5. Humor（幽默）

正如你已經知道的，幽默是所有女人在選擇潛在伴侶的重要首選之一。但為什麼是這個呢？因為幽默有可以聆聽情緒的能力。

As you already know, humor is at the top of every woman’s list for a potential partner. But why is this? Because humor has the ability to lighten a mood!

一個女性很容易受到她的情緒，或是該做的事情而影響到她的心情。這對我們來說是件壓力很大的事。如果你可以讓一個女人笑的話，那麼便可以幫助她們疏通那樣的情緒。女人會對你能夠為他們每天的生活帶來快樂與活力而覺得感激。

The feminine gets bogged down with her emotions, as well as her to-do lists. This is very stressful for us! If you can make a woman laugh, it’s a gateway to flow. Women are very grateful for your ability to add joy and light to day-to-day life.

所以給外面所有的男人，只要記得你們的男性本質對你的另一半或是這個世界來說都是種天賦。也是讓你變得與眾不同的地方。我們欣賞你與我們不同的特質。

For all you men out there, keep in mind that your masculinity is a gift, to your partner and to the world. It is part of what makes you uniquely you. We appreciate the ways you’re different from us.