I had a client yesterday, she just found out that her many years husband cheated on her.  The concelling session was long, but it also make me realize couple of things.

First, I realized that I really do not believe in cheating.  It’s not that I think all marriage should last forever, or all couple should only have the heart for their other half for the rest of their life.  What I stand for is ‘integrity’.  We all know that not all relationship will work out the way we want it to be.  Especially when no one is ‘working’ the relationship, but simply expect it to last, the chance is that relationship would only crumble in the matter of time.  But I think if I were in a relationship, and my heart is starting to fall for someone else, at least I should have the integrity to let the one in the relationship with me to know.  So he will have a choice to either leave me with pride, or work something out.  It should be his choice as well.

I don’t really believe ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’, either.  But if the trust in the marriage is broken, that shadow will always overcasting the relationship.  If two people fall back to the same old routine again without putting intention to work it or establish a new trust, the chance is the same matter would most likely happen again.

Second, I noticed how easy it is for women to blame themselves when relationship doesn’t work out.  The most common question is that they often question why this is happening to them? have they done something wrong?  Weren’t they good enough? etc…  If you truly understand what I’ve been talking about in the past month or so, you should start to realize that all things happens for us to evolve.  So why is this happening to you?  It’s most likely that your soul is craving for a chance to evolve, and something to push you to step out of your comfort zone and make that first step.  So don’t make thing that happens to you define who you are, but learn from it, make the most of it.  So once you’ve learned the lesson you were meant to learn, that same thing would not happen again.  So instead of asking ‘why this is happening to you’ (which is also a way you set command to the universe), start asking yourself ‘what it is that I am suppose to learn from this?”  The understanding will usually bring you to a better place that you will later appreciate that things happens the way it is right now.

Third, have you ever noticed that some people’s misery never end?  Why am I so unfortunate, miserable, pathetic…. etc?  If you were aware the power of thought, you would probably start to realize that is how you set command to the universe.  Most of us living our life believing that misery never has an end date.  So we complain and complain, not knowing that each time we complain how miserable life is for us, we set another command to the universe to make that miserable life happens for us again.  So for those who complain that ‘this year is the most miserable year for me’ at the beginning of the year, guess what would happens?  You may still have another 11 months to deal with what miserable really means.  So what I am suggesting is that, learn to put an end date to your misery / depression, cry as much as you want, be as low as you can, but set a date that all these would end and you have something to look forward to as well.  Send a different command to the universe.  Instead of living a miserable life believing that it would never end, put an end date to it.  So whenever you look up at the calendar, you will know that day is coming.  Train your thought to look forward to something, not always looking backward for bad thing that already happened.  The truth is, no matter how bad the situation you are in or how miserable life could be at this moment, all things will pass one day.  So set a date and end it for yourself.  (Understanding how energy circulates, I will ask you to first evaluate your current status and set that date to be at least one month from now.  If you are in a really really really bad place, three months would always be a good time.  If you’d ever caught yourself complaining again, change it to ‘that day is coming’.  Try this and see how powerful your thought could manifest your reality.)

Ep. 27. The effect of cursing

Have you ever get so upset with someone and end up cursing? (Cursing in this case is more like spelling, not swearing.)  You have that spurt of hatred that you want someone die, out of your life, or even cursing them to be miserable for the rest of their life.  You see, human’s thought is actually quite powerful.  That great hatred in you that really wish someone die may actually cause some effect on that specific someone, may even create some unluckiness on that someone.  But it doesn’t really quite work if that someone happens to know their being well, and also have the skill to balance their own energy.

In the past month, I taught you various ways to balance your energy.  If you do exercise them, you will become aware of your being.  That awareness will make you notice when people deposit bad thought/intention into your parameter.  Since you are aware, you will be able to do something about it.  It is when you are not aware, that thought then create some energy disturbance which may later on make thing goes not as smooth as it should be.  And depends on how your thought is, that event may then trigger butterfly effect and create more unfortunate events to happen.  So cursing is all about whose’ thought is more powerful to overpower the other in order to make effect happens.  Regardless, at this point, that curse has already activate Karma to work its way back to the sender.  The more one suffer from that initial trigger, the more the sender has to endure later on.

And that’s the thing.  I mentioned before that Karma is all depends on your intention.  If your intention is to hurt, Karma will find its way back to make you feel hurt.  When you have so much hatred that you curse someone to go to hell or die, that amount of hatred had already off balance the universe.  Disregard if your curse make any effect on that someone or not, you have already sent your intention to the universe.  therefore, Karma will start to find its way back. We often have to live through what we put out there.  So next time when you hate someone so much and feel the need to curse them, think again, is that neccessary?  Do we want to have a taste of that hatred that we throw out there by impulse?  If you know thing like I do, you will know that there’s no need to play judge on people’s behaviour, because karma will always find its way back to them.

I sometimes joke that I will curse people, my followers always called on my and said ‘no, you won’t, because you are too afraid of Karma.’  Yes, they are right.  I am quite afraid of karma because I’ve been through enough karma.  And because that I am afraid of Karma, that really make me unqualified to be a witch.  People sometimes called me witch for fun, but some of them do call me witch base on hatred.  You see, witch exercise witchcraft, which is what you called spell.  If you understand spell, you will know that spell is basically a curse, that is using the power of intention to overpower other’s and make things happens.  A chicken like me who is too scare of karma, I would suck to be a witch.  But if you hate me so much and feel that witch is the only proper word to describe me, that’s fine by me too.  (Really, I don’t really see how this word should hurt.  Well, maybe in 1600 when I was literally killed by accusation of exercising witchcraft.  But in nowaday, so what I am a witch?!)

So next time, when you want to curse someone, think again.  Is that something you really want to do?  Is that Karma that you want to activate and have a taste of later on?  If your answer is no, then keep all the cruel words to yourself and have faith that karma will find it’s way back to that someone if he/she really deserve it.